#the Grudges

Omg..grudges! Are you the one who hold on to them?

In my opinion most of the people used to do so. 

Somehow,grudges must feel satisfying in some way. If they didn’t, we might not be as likely to hold on to them for so long. Maybe we get some temporary satisfaction when acting in a passive-aggressive way toward the people we hold grudges against.

If so, that meager recompense we gain from treating someone badly or ostracizing them hardly begins to balance out all the negative effects of holding a grudge. If we are unable to let go of a grudge, we face time lost stewing over it, the anger that can embitter us in many ways for years, and the potential health problems that result from the anxiety, depression, increased heart rate, and elevated blood pressure that grudges can cause.Which means, hold on to grudges is not good.

Learning how to let go of a grudge will be demanding, but it can help restore a relationship if that’s your goal. However, reconciliation is not a requirement. Some people don’t deserve it; some grudges come out of conflicts repulsive enough to make you realize that you don't want to deal with that person any longer.

But when you learn to let go of a grudge will demand a new degree of willpower. It is one thing to allow your new attitude to change the course of your relationship, but truly leaving the grudge behind means never allowing it to contaminate you again.

For example, if someone asks you how so-and-so is doing, you have to resist the urge to recount the whole sordid tale just for the purpose of putting a little stain on their name. This is an urge which, in the recent past, you may have jumped on at every opportunity.

In order to cash out this grudge, you have to honor and respect your intentions of dropping it all behind you and not letting it infect your thoughts, feelings or actions. It’s easier said than done, but necessary nonetheless.